Marriage is far more than a social contract or legal partnership; it is a profound spiritual, mystical, and covenantal act known as Kiddushin, which translates to "sanctification" or "dedication". It is considered a divine command (mitzvah) that elevates a relationship into a holy union, transforming the couple into a single entity—"one flesh"—that creates a bayit ne'eman b'Yisrael (a faithful home in Israel).
Kabbalah states that souls are united before birth and split into two halves, with marriage being the reunion of these two halves. Finding one’s "bashert" (destined soulmate) is considered finding one's missing piece, achieving completion. In addition, marriage is a mirror of the relationship between God and the Jewish people, symbolizing commitment, loyalty, and trust.
The ceremony of the wedding is a reenactment of the covenantal union at Mount Sinai. Marriage is defined as the point at which the "I" of the individual meets the "Thou" of another, transforming two separate lives into something more generous, tender, and selfless than either could achieve alone.
The Talmud states that when a husband and wife are worthy, the Shechinah (Divine Presence) dwells in their home. The wedding ceremony and subsequent home-building are seen as bringing holiness into the physical world. Traditional Judaism views the primary purpose of marriage as companionship, love, and emotional closeness. It is in this context that children are raised to be a source of pride not only for their parents but also for the world and God Himself, rather than solely childbearing.
